How to Shoot your Shot

   2019, guys would wanna play it better, I mean they talk about girls not giving them the right answer or replying like it is an interrogation session, well how about you stop asking us questions we have to reply straightforward to... how about you chat with her with positivity. 

1. Who are you as a person? That’s what you should show her, it’s a new chat, you want to keep it cool, so show your bright side, don’t talk about the part parts of your day or allow it reflect in your chat. You can go back to texting her later when you are in a brighter mood. 
2. To avoid getting friend zoned, never let the chat get boring or too ordinary, we ladies ask boring questions like ‘How are you?’ ‘Have you eaten?’, ‘How was your day?’, and so on, instead of giving a bland or straightforward reply, go with the cheesy flex and say something relative yet not relative, like she asks ‘How was your day?’ You can go with the reply, ‘Good but maybe it would have been better if you were here.’ She asks ‘you eaten?’, you can say something like, ‘Yes I have got me wondering if you’d like me to take you out sometime.’ See what you are doing there? You are taking action subtly, now the whole cheesy lines can be really annoying at times when it’s overplayed but you can throw it in subtly once in a while, make a laugh and stuff. There’s no girl that doesn’t like a guy with a funny bone. We enjoy laughing and it sparks that love hormone naturally. Yes! Don’t let any girl tell you otherwise. Just be playful, get her thinking if you are really into her, get her comfortable, so she won’t feel awkward when you send a message and would always be in a hurry to open, she won’t feel so pressured.
3. Go with role plays, simple and fun, play with your imagination and slip in your true feelings so she has a slight idea, we can tell if a guy has interest in us even a little bit, flash her the card, don’t come on too strong.                                                                                                          Girl: Where are you?                                                                                                                 Boy: in Italy... in front of this restaurant staring at a beautiful girl eat.                                           Girl: oh really? / stalker much?                                                                                                  Boy: yes, you really look good in red, how does that coffee taste, your eyes get wide when you take a sip.  Just like that, now she has an idea what you are doing, she may be a boring girl and doesn’t get how it works or she may be the fun type and play along. If she’s boring...well, you can always teach her except you are also that boring. 
4. You may want to text her yet you have nothing to say, so ask her something about what she said she was going to do, when you asking, don’t forget to spice it up so you aren’t a bore and she is eager to reply.                                                                                                                  Boy: Hey Movie Queen/Slob/Nappy hair/any relatable pet name, did you end up killing your dog or are you stroking his fur 😂                                                                                             This is something a girl would be eager to reply because it’s something that sparks a chatty response. She can reply like "oh! I didn’t give him his treats and I felt so bad, so I made him crawl in bed with me, we are watching Chucky and he keeps barring his teeth, it’s quiet fun.                             Push out the conversationalist in her. If you have no idea what it was she wanted to do, then ask her questions about where in the world she wants to be the most, ask about her first crush or first kiss or embarrassing moments or her failed attempt at talking to a guy, something to make you guys bond then you share your own story, find something to laugh about. Use quotes from her favorite movies to talk to her, girls love those kinda cheesy things, make her hush and scream unbelievable in her head. It makes things easier trust me. 
5. Back to role playing, this time it’s turned up a notch, the first was innocent, this time you can try it dirty. Say something like... ‘You’ve been naughty, I spank naughty girls.’ If you are in that comfortable position that is, now because she has warmed up to you, she would definitely act back then the rest is on your shoulders. Just don’t ask for pictures if things haven’t escalated to that level, keep it simple. 
6. You know she likes you when she replies faster than before and uses the happy emojis, she asks your opinions about things she likes that she knows you wouldn’t, she sends you sexy pictures of herself without you asking and drops a flirty comment, or maybe not , she hints how sexual she can get, that is your green light. 
7. Remember to end conversation so you don’t become, the Netflix and cry guy or the guy she runs to when she has gotten her heart broken, then you are not only in the friend zone , you are in the best friend zone or the my pillow zone, even if things escalate from there, you are the rebound guy. Yes, sadly... that is how it works. So stay close but not too close. Make her wonder about you, end the conversations, ending the conversation means that you are in charge of the whole interaction, it makes her want more, it keeps her coming because she wants to have the different fun you give her. Let her fight for your attention. 
8. Get her hooked! I’m the middle of a fun back-to-back conversation go silent, don’t reply back immediately, let her anticipate your reply, allow her wonder what is up with you. That’s building the affection. 
9. Send her a message, she doesn’t reply quick? Get your mind off it, don’t overthink it, it really may be nothing, she probably is just busy or isn’t with her device. So pay attention to other things till she replies or try again the next day. Good? 
10. When texting, don’t use too much grammar and well constructed sentences, it makes you seem too uptight, I as a girl, I’ve done it and the guy was like can you be a little unprofessional you’re making me uncomfortable. Now imagine you as a guy? Yes it’s sexy but tone it up, mix it with slangs and abbreviations, don’t overdo it either, don’t use too many question marks, Psychologists say it looks needy and mostly ignites a negative response. 
11. Reply her texts how she texts you, does she use long texts...does she use short texts? Mirror her, does she use a lot of emojis or little or no emojis? Does she work a lot...does she have classes at that hour? Know when to text her or when to expect a reply. These are important things you should know. So you are not a bothersome person,you are the guy she expects a message from. 
12. Know her type of girl or waste your time. Know how passionate she is, what turns her on and off, if she is silly and weird or serious and uptight, if she is shy and reserved or bold and outgoing, if she is in school or if she is working, if she is a movie person or a book person, every girl has her own dream, has her own preference, every girl is different, don’t compare a girl to another ever, she would never forget whether or not you meant no harm. Know who you are texting and trying to be with.
13. Don’t jump into asking her out, insinuate the date. Start with random questions like “do you like pancakes?” She says “yes”, ask her, “hmm...fluffy or the normal pancakes foodie?” She replies like “ fluffy lol” then go ahead and ask “ I know a good place they sell fluffy pancakes, they give free juice too, what are you doing Thursday?”                                     Try it this way. 
14. Get the spark, bring out her naughty side, get her excited to meet up with you and maybe jump in your bed, make her want to be your girl. 

I hope this is helpful for you guys because you really are all buzzkills yet you rant about girls being bad conversationalist, you lack the art of warming her up. Most of the times, you guys come out like creeps.