Dumping The Mister For The Master

                       
    Having a female partner is like birthing a new baby, they need all that love, attention, care. The complete package, half of it just isn't enough, it is never enough, men say women are complicated because they don't understand and they don't understand because they don't listen. It's like when a baby cries, you don't know the exact reason the baby is crying but you try to figure it out to stop the baby from crying, to make the baby aware of your presence.
You can love a woman and buy her all the things in the world, but it would never be enough, the attention is not there, this can lead to her finding a side man, someone to fill up that gap to complete her satisfaction, it isn't all about money and outings with a lady. If you are present then Your Presence must be Present. What i mean is, if you are around her, give her some of your time, listen to her, talk to her, communicate, keep that connection flowing, let it be like you hanging out with your best friend and lover at the same time. Don't be beside her and act like complete strangers, you both swallowed up in your technological devices. It doesn't always fall back on money what a girl wants.
Love and Attention is really all that matters, most especially attention. It isn't enough for us to know 'ok, he loves me.'
Even though we know, we love to hear it, it has a whole new impact on its own.
Now I'll tell two different stories-

 A girl I know, her boyfriend starts acting up for no reason, doesn't reply her texts, doesn't call or pick up her calls. He avoids her  and she was hurting because she didn't know what she had done wrong. She finally got a hold of him and tried to have a proper conversation and he was being rude and inconsiderate, he totally ignored her feelings despite the tears threatening to fall. She refused to let him go and followed him,  because she had had enough and needed an answer and he wasn't giving her one. It was quite embarrassing and quite stupid of him, all of us saw him in a new light, nigga ain't shit.  Now there's this other guy she had been talking to and he listened to her, he talked to her made her feel that special tingle again and she went for him. The other guy came back pleading but nothing really changed. Quite annoying, but she loves him so she went back. She's had enough of it all now and wants the other. But she doesn't know if she is in love with the other. 

Now this story is a bit more complicated-

 So a girl likes a guy for the first time ever and he assured her of his feelings even though things weren't exclusive between them. She had no problem whatsoever with this, in fact that was exactly what she wanted. But as usual, guys end up being guys, start pulling back, not caring, treating her like crap, suddenly he just didn't feel like communicating with her, she tried to reach out to him but he made it clear that he didn't need her help getting back on track in the relationship they had because he thought she wanted more, maybe she did, but really what she wanted was more of his attention, like he used to shower her in the early stages. It hurt her because this same guy was her best friend, the one she could openly talk to feeling comfortable, this guy had made her fall in love and then blamed her for it even though he quiet well said those three words first. He left her torn and confused, nobody to talk to and it was literally driving her crazy because she didn't want anyone in her business, when it seemed like she was about to be sucked into the darkness once again, an understanding young man came along, quiet easily he got her to lay it all out to him, it probably may have been because she was dead close to a mental combustion or because she knew there was nothing to hide from this young man. Every day they spoke, got to know each other more, got to understand the other. At first they had squabbles with his constant nagging and controlling attitude, along the way as they got closer, they got attracted to each other, now the girl was still having an On and Off relationship with her First Love at the same time she wasn't letting the other go and the other, didn't want to let go either, he tried to fight his feelings, at first she felt guilt and she cared but the more her First Love ill treated her the less she cared. So she penetrated into the feelings of the other quite easily because that was who she wanted, this other guy wasn't letting himself free, he was burdened and she was mad that he was burdened. He wants her badly now and so does she, nothing is stopping them or so she thinks but the other guy can't go through with it because he doesn't want to hurt his best friend. Yes, she is crazy about the best friend of her first love.Quite cliche, but that is life, now she is crazy furious because she and her first love were never exclusive, never dated and if she wants to honestly reflect, his best friend has treated her far more better than he ever has and in such a short time too, he gives her the complete package. But then now he is also pulling back because he is scared, because he doesn't want to have to worry, because he doesn't want to be a Judas, because he doesn't want to hurt him, because he believes the first love still has feelings for her and he doesn't want to come in the way. But the girl has pretty much had enough and she is done, and the fact that she doesn't care scares the best friend, but honestly though, if he did care about the first lover from the start then he should never have initiated a kiss, he should never have flirt back. He is a lot more mature than the first love that is for sure, he communicates well that is for sure, all these are a huge turn on for the girl. She really doesn't care who she hurts in the process, that is if the fucked up first love would even care.

Now these two stories pretty much point in the same direction.  Attention!
If you actually want to keep her, you have to do more than beep her, you have to make yourself available even if you aren't close. Truth be told, no matter how much a girl likes you, there is always a back up guy waiting for you to make the wrong move, there is always that one guy that would make her smile again,make her learn again, make her trust again.
We leave the boy for the man, although in the second story, the man is starting to look more like a Mister than a Master.