Girls’ POV on Friendzoning and Relationships

 Well...Hello Nobles,

As the spokeswoman of my fellow females I would like to say we do not “Play Hard to Get” all the time. Yes sometimes we do for the fun of it if we aren’t interested in the person, if we are interested in the person the only reason we do it is to see how far you are willing to chase, if you are actually interested, it gets tiring for guys yes we know, which is wrong for ladies because we really should know when to stop. I asked a friend of mine why she thinks girls like playing hard to get and she said

Well, some of us, we don't want to seem easy and most of us like the chase. We want to know that he is really serious and not just a mere side attraction that would soon fade.

Yup, pretty much the same thing.
Picking up the issue of friendzoning guys, the thing is when you ask a girl out, you can’t expect her to  accept immediately, there are steps required before you can get acquainted in a relationship. In Nigeria we don’t really practice going out on dates, getting to know one another if he/she’s someone I can date, going on dates doesn’t necessarily makes you Friends it determines if you would have that person in your life as a lover or as a friend or you don’t want to associate with that person at all. But since we don’t practice going out on multiple dates we have to settle with befriending him first, if we  try getting to know him on friendly terms and we aren’t attracted to you in that way then it really isn’t our fault.
Talking about dates brings up another issue guys have with girls, getting us to go out. Parents are strict about the movement of female children, so it is a factor, makes it difficult to go out, another factor is the G-Boys using girls as sacrifice, I mean really, you can’t expect us to just trust anybody these guys’eyes be bloody red nowadays. Truly, not every guy is guilty of this, but the problem is how to tell the good guys from the bad guys because a lot of guys mask their true behaviors, they are chameleons, we can’t just act irrationally and cause an issue for ourselves.
A guy pretty much pissed about this whole issue said

 Girls are the problem....if you come out straight they start to form "hard to get"...or start to give this shitty attitude even tho she likes you too. If you try to start from friendship you gon end in the "friendzone". SurNo one is innocent of this including girlsprisingly some won't even accept to go on a date, they don't even care to know about you. You can't be too sure of what the friendship has in store for you....when you become a girl's friend and deep down you know you want more than friendship tell her will be hard because you're scared of losing her. Let's be honest here....it's easy to differentiate  a chilled guy from a rascal, no one is innocent of being an hypocrite including girls, Dating does not necessarily mean going out are you aware? You enter some babes DM all they want to know is your worth immediately! Do you know you can establish a meaningful relationship with a guy online...from there you guys can set up a meaningful date.It's disheartening that 95% of the girls are after guys with benz and they confuse lust for love. 

 Yes we are aware dating isn’t necessarily going out, if you weren’t well now you are, it is a get together or a meeting. You can go out on multiple dates and maybe makeout depends on how you feel about the person, but personally I think if you have started making out then why not just ask the question already? Don’t assume you are already in a exclusive relationship. Which brings us to how guys approach girls, I’m going to let you see it from a friend’s point of view.

Some guys don't know how to ask girls out, their skills will just piss u off, but some skills will just leave u blushing. It doesn't mean you'll still say yes though. 

There are guys that would leave you speechless, smiling and all, there are guys that would make you forget how to put together a proper sentence, there are guys who show interest in you today and no interest tomorrow kind of like a switch(irritating and Big turn off), there are guys who try to entice you with money.
The thing is women are attracted to Power not just money, intensity, confidence, men that are like a challenge(women like to chase too, we want what we can’t have), a guy that is mysterious, in control, that doesn’t apologize for what he does because that is what he wanted to do, a vulnerable and possessive man with ambition, a Master of Seduction, someone that cares about her interest. These are the major things that makes a girl fall for a guy. It all encompasses around Confidence and Power.
Truly my dear men I say unto you, no girl really wants to date or marry a broke guy, not in this age, so we encourage you to face your studies and work hard and when you are earning come back, Girls want guys that have something to offer, the ones that don’t sorry to say really have no dignity whatsoever. We also want to make money, because we have money doesn’t mean you shouldn’t, this also doesn’t mean we are gold diggers or money huggers, no it means we care about ourselves and secureness of our future.
So please understand that there are a lot of things Girls have to consider before agreeing to be in a relationship. There are a lot of things she quickly scans before uttering a word. Your presentation is what matters and her desire, if you aren’t up to match then there’s no need to make a fuss, improve on  yourself for the future. It’s not the end of the world.
From The Ladies In My CL 💜