Don’t Look at Me

There’s one thing women would never get tired of talking about, that is men, disrespectful men to be exact. When would you finally understand that, not all women dress to please you? We don’t even take photos to please you, it’s just something we do that makes us happy. Sometimes we like to play dress up, doll up and take pictures for the sake of it, not because we are trying to ‘impress’, ‘attract’ you. Let’s be guided. 

Know what else is irritating ??? Touching someone without their permission. Like... take your dirty fingers off my shoulder Romeo, I’m not that friendly. You shamelessly objectify a woman, shame her on her appearance, torment her for who she chooses to be. If I show my arms, it’s not to invite you to touch it, in fact, if you want to get my attention at all, call my name, if you don’t know my name, step in front of me and politely request my attention. If I put on a skirt to your house, it is not a green light for you to think I want to ‘do something’ it means, I am a strong, confident woman, who is unbothered by societal beliefs and restrictions. If I say ‘No’ I mean ‘No’ it’s not coded and I'm not fronting. A lady telling you no doesn’t mean she wants to be chased, we mean it when we say No, your ego is just too big to be bruised and you refuse to accept it. This leads to disrespect, which leads to abuse. Most times guys wonder why a girl refuses to come see them, or refuses to come alone. Wonder no more, it’s because you have made us feel unsafe in our own skin. It’s because you have made us feel like sheep amidst a Pride of Lions. Oh please, don’t let that make your head swell, you should be disappointed in yourself instead. Why are you staring? You like what you see? Thank you. Don’t stare longer than 10 secs otherwise you become a predator and you become dangerous. You want to complement a woman, go ahead but choose your words carefully. What happened to being gentlemen ? The other day someone was talking about wanting to have a hit on my ass and I was like I’m not interested, the next statement threw me off, he asked "what is special about the ass sef?" Uhm excuse me, did I hurt you by turning you down? Do I have to be interested because you are interested ? So I asked him, "what is special about your dick?" 

He said "it is free", this made me shake my head. It’s so sad because a lot of guys have this type of mentality. This disgusting, childish, predatory persona, it’s not sexy, it’s not hot, you’re just a disgusting blooming rapist. That’s how I see it. Men walk around shirtless or in boxers, but no one goes to touch them besides gawking, correct me if I am wrong. Who touches you repeatedly even after you say stop? If you want to talk about morals, appearance then you are just as sick as I thought.  

Children, nuns, zealots and so on get raped, get harassed by men fueled by their ego, by men who can’t use their brain, by men whose penises have taken the wheel of their lives. 

You want to stare at me? Go ahead but if you touch me, I’ll cut you with a knife, I carry one in my bag. Thank you. 

I’m sexy and I know it and I flaunt it but you can’t touch it. 

Adeshewa Adeniran