Dreamer, why are you Sad?

Expectations are premeditated resentments.

    As humans, we imagine and think about things and expect it to happen. It’s like being a child and wanting all the money in the world to buy chocolates but it doesn’t happen. As kids we thought of the most outrageous and most ridiculous things and we expected that they came to reality but most times they never did, sometimes we didn’t give up hoping. This is called "Magical Thinking", praying is also magical thinking. We want the vision in our minds to become a reality and life doesn’t work that way, not everything we visualize comes to pass. I believe in the Law of Attraction which is also a form of magical thinking.
     Life doesn’t always turn out the way we want, so we get disappointed when these things don’t happen. Obviously if you hungry you can’t just think about a meal and have it appear out of the blue, you have to go through the processes, either you make the meal or you order for it online. These are basic things we are used to, then there’s  asking someone else to make the meal, this person refuses to make the meal and you get mad. Why are you mad? You are mad because you expected the person to do your bidding. You got your hopes up, physiologists call it the Social Contract.
Disappointment mostly affects optimists, they always have positive thoughts about everything, their hopes up that things are going to work out. Sadly, life would pop up behind you like, "hahaha!! You really thought! Hahahahaha!!! Mehn, lemme go look for the next victim." Really life? Really?? Sorry optimist.
     Sometimes, our expectations are just not realistic, some of them might be to you but won’t be to another person. We’ll probably get mad at the person and say things like, “you just hating.” Or “you can’t see the vision doesn’t mean I can’t do it.” The feeling of disappointment can be avoided but we live too fast hence we don’t see before we bump into it along the way, sometimes this causes minor setbacks, sometimes we are fast to think of another approach or wake up from that slumber.
     To avoid being sad, to be happier, adjust the way you think, communicate with people, make plans. Be in control of your happiness. Having a set plan and working in that direction, that is in your control, that is all on you, work on your pace, not another person’s. Trying to achieve what someone else has would only lead to resentment when it doesn’t work out for you.
To be able to work your own path brings about your growth, the growth of those around you, you get to mind your business, you know and stop judging others, we learn to accept ourselves and what life has brought to us.

Think of the future.
Dream of the future.
Live for the future.

Risk all.
Give all.
Exceed all.
Win all.

Matshona Dhliwayo