Beginner’s Guide to Erotic Writing

 When Lust Lives in Language

The first time I wrote something erotic, I didn’t even realize it.
It was a single line in the middle of a poem — something about a kiss that felt like biting into the sun. Soft, but dangerous.

Someone read it and said,
"Why did that feel… sexual?"
I just shrugged and smiled.

Because here’s the thing:
Erotic writing isn’t about being explicit. It’s about being undeniable.
You can whisper filth without ever using a dirty word.
And you can turn someone on—slowly, intentionally — using nothing but language and a bit of restraint.

Plot: Sex Needs a Story

Before you jump into the heat, you need the build-up.
Even the raunchiest scenes need context. Who are these characters? Why do they want each other? What are they holding back?

Whether it’s a one-page fantasy or a full-length story, think:

• Where are they?

• What just happened?

• What’s about to break them?

This isn’t just sex. This is longing, tension, risk.
Maybe one person is off-limits. Maybe they’re afraid. Maybe they’ve waited months for this.
That edge is what makes erotic writing hit deep.

Tip: Don’t rush the first kiss, the first touch, the first anything.
Make your reader ache for it. Let them breathe in the anticipation.

Tension & Description: Raunchy, But Mellow

When I write sex, I’m not trying to sound like porn.
I’m trying to make people feel — that slow burn, that heat behind the ribs, that quiet gasp moment.

The best tool? Similes and metaphors.
But not too many. Just enough to lace the moment with a bit of poetry.
Something like:

• Her skin felt like hot silk sliding across secrets.

• He didn’t kiss her — he warned her.

• She moved like a confession waiting to happen.

Mix that with direct language for balance.
The soft + raw combo is what keeps it sensual, not cringey.

Tip: Describe breath, sound, body language, not just body parts.
You don’t need to name everything to make it erotic. Let the reader fill in the blanks.

 Sharing It: Exposed, But Powerful

Writing sex is vulnerable.
Sometimes I write a piece that feels so real, I don’t post it until I’ve healed from the version of me that wrote it.

That’s okay.
Erotic writing is more than shock — it’s intimacy, imagination, emotional clarity.
And when you’re ready to share it, you’re not just turning someone on.
You’re showing them how you see sex. How you feel it.

Tip: Post under a pseudonym if you need to.
Or test it with one trusted person who gets your energy.

But most importantly:
Don’t write to impress. Write to express.

If it turns someone on?
Cool.
If it turns you on while writing it?
Even better.

Erotic writing isn’t just about what goes where.
It’s about the electric pause before someone says “come closer.”
It’s about the emotional mess beneath the lust.
It’s about taking your time, using your words, and owning your desire — with just enough metaphor to keep things wet and wicked.

So go on. Write her off.
Make it soft. Make it dirty. Make it yours.